TY  - BOOK
AU  - Filgate,Michele
TI  - What my mother and I don't talk about: 15 writers break the silence 
SN  - 9781982107345 (hardcover : alk. paper)
AV  - HQ759 .W4554 2019
U1  - 306.874/3 23
PY  - 2019///
CY  - New York
PB  - Simon & Schuster
KW  - Mother and child
KW  - Mothers
KW  - Parent and adult child
N1  - Includes bibliographical references and index; What my mother and I don't talk about; by Michele Filgate --; My mother's (gate) keeper; by Cathi Hanauer --; Thesmophoria; by Melissa Febos --; Xanadu; by Alexander Chee --; 16 Minetta Lane; by Dylan Landis --; Fifteen; by Bernice L. McFadden --; Nothing left unsaid; by Julianna Baggott --; The same story about my mom; by Lynn Steger Strong --; While these things/feel American to me; by Kiese Laymon --; Mother tongue; by Carmen Maria Machado --; Are you listening?; by André Aciman --; Brother, can you spare some change?; by Sari Botton --; Her body / My body; by Nayomi Munaweera --; All about my mother; by Brandon Taylor --; I met fear on the hill; by Leslie Jamison
N2  - As an undergraduate, Michele Filgate started writing an essay about being abused by her stepfather. It took her more than a decade to realize what she was actually trying to write: how this affected her relationship with her mother. When it was finally published, the essay went viral, shared on social media by Anne Lamott, Rebecca Solnit, and many others. The outpouring of responses gave Filgate an idea, and the resulting anthology offers a candid look at our relationships with our mothers. While some of the writers in this book are estranged from their mothers, others are extremely close. Leslie Jamison writes about trying to discover who her seemingly perfect mother was before ever becoming a mom. In Cathi Hanauer’s hilarious piece, she finally gets a chance to have a conversation with her mother that isn’t interrupted by her domineering (but lovable) father. André Aciman writes about what it was like to have a deaf mother. Melissa Febos uses mythology as a lens to look at her close-knit relationship with her psychotherapist mother. And Julianna Baggott talks about having a mom who tells her everything. As Filgate writes, Our mothers are our first homes, and that’s why we’re always trying to return to them. There’s relief in breaking the silence. Acknowledging what we couldn’t say for so long is one way to heal our relationships with others and, perhaps most important, with ourselves
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